My family is AGAINST it!!!!

[Lizmarie84]

I am 22 years old, and my family (mom, brother and dad-especially) loves to control my life. Ever since I was little I have had to practically ask if I could breathe! I moved 2 hours away for college for 3 years only to learn that my family was falling apart, so I came back. Now, 30lbs heavier from my previous 5'7" 120lb body my family is giving me **** for being overweight! My dad tells me I have the "dun-lap" disease, which is when your hips have "done-lopped" over your pants . . . very funny, I know. For gosh sake, I am still a size 7-9. But no longer a size 1-3. So I decided to start the MC after hearing about Robin Quiver's success story on E! I was encouraging my mom for a week to start the MC with me on June 1st (today), and she was so excited. Then she talked to my dad about it and he talked to his doctor. Now they are freaked out b/c they think that she won't have enough protein or electrolytes in her body to survive-not to mention, they're trying to get me to quit, also!

After all the crap they give me for gaining 30lbs, now they want me to suffer and keep it on?! . . . .Well it's not going to happen. I need to do this for myself - not anyone else. It is going to be a long road with everyone against my efforts, but am motivated to prove them all wrong. Oh, my live-in boyfriend of 5 months also thinks it's a bad idea and keeps making fun of the diet as a whole and my morning's eliminations (it was pretty funny, though).

Please, I need help. . . . I know there is not much for anyone to do to help me, except maybe a similar story of some sort. I just need someone that is on my side for once!

[Res]

Well, you're in the right place. :) You'll probably have quite a few people chime in here encouraging you because we've all had this thrown back in our faces once or twice.

I had one person believing it and seemingly on my side until he ended up giving me the book back calling it "rubbish". That hurt - but I realized if they haven't done the cleanse, just chalk it up to them being ignorant and ignore them. Move on - don't listen to people who pull you down.

It's too late to "not tell them" but when you do it again you'll know not to say anything to anyone. Sucks - dosen't it? :( Is there anyway you can play it down until you're finished?

Hang in there and keep checking in. We'll do what we can for you. :)

BTW, a year ago I was 165 lbs, after several cleanses I'm consistently staying at around 113 - 117. This is my usual body weight but I had health issues that caused the weight gain and I tried EVERYTHING to get the weight off and it wouldn't come off. So what's better? Accepting the fat and moving towards being obese, or trying to take care of yourself? AND you're absolutely right about doing this for yourself. DO IT! ;)

Love,
~Res

[Guest]

Hi, Lizmarie84,

You know, it's all about what works for you. The MC is not just a great cleanse it's also a great practice for being an adult. Be compassionate to your family as I don't think they know how to relate to you other their daughter whom they love and need to protect. Protecting---that's their way of showing love (which is great for an infant, a toddler, or even a teenager). You're 22...so, welcome to adulthood! Your parents and boyfriend will go through a process of unlearning their ways of relating to you and they will have reactions to change. Again, be compassionate to them and also to yourself. You'll have some work to do in training them in the new way you want them to relate to you which is as an adult. You'll go through a process as well...See, it's just like the MC. It's all a process...sometimes it sucks but in the end, it all works out. ' hope this helps!

Ylen

[Elenna]

Liz,

As you know, your family has been going through a rough time of late, with marital troubles or other such issues. They also have a history of trying to control your life (and probably succeeding?).

Remember that they should have your well-being at heart, and I am sure that they are just worried of the unknowns of the Master Cleanse, but you are an adult and my advice would be to stay strong and make sure they treat you like the adult you are!

It may be hard for them, especially they have years of habitual 'controlling' under their belts. If your brother is younger and he is still at home, he is probably also 'controlled'. They probably have the feeling that once you are under their roof, you do what they say.

Obviously it is your choice if you wish to stay at home, but remember that if you DO go on the MC, there is the possibility of them sabotaging it for you (their way of trying to control you) by throwing out the ingredients or purposely taunting you with food or belittling your efforts in their first stages.

I'm not a counselor and I really don't mean to paint your family in a harsh light, I'm just going off of what you've said, so I'm sorry if I've offended you by saying something that's upset you!

Just be careful, since your family has a history of controlling you. Being a size 1-3 is VERY small, and (IMHO) isn't healthy to begin with. They may think they know what's right for you, but only YOU can decide that.

It's been suggested that you hide it from them as much as you can. Either drop it for a week or two, so they think you stopped it, or see if you can store the ingredients in a friend's house.

We'll be here cheering you on, no matter what decisions you make!!

To your health,

~Dana

[Lizmarie84]

Thank you everyone, so much, for your support!!! I have not replied for so long because I wanted to make sure that my will power was strong. I just didn't want to look like a fool on this site. But I have some very good news! I have make it to my 6th day so far, with only cheating once! On the first day I was eager to freshen my breath to kiss my boyfriend and started chewing bubble gum, after about 20 minutes I realized what I had done. . . it was definately and accident!

As far as my family goes, I do not live at home, but I do live in a building owned by my parents and drive a car that they bought me (don't think I'm spoiled-- I have paid dearly for the life I live-- take it as you will). As a child eating or a lack thereof was the only thing I could control in my life after the age of about 13, so their say in this is being treated as fuel to the fire. I am so proud of myself and never thought I could do this! I am reading about 40 pages everyday about the master cleanse or raw food. I finished both master cleanse books and I am currently half way through 12 Steps to Raw Foods. I now know why I was so sick as a child! This is so invigorating to learn about.

I will write more when time permits, and, again, I thank you all for your time to help a fellow cleanser stay on track :)

[Elenna]

Liz,

YEAH!! I'm so happy to hear that!! *virtual hugs and cheering*


Gum isn't as bad as ingesting actual food, but (as you know) should be avoided.

I know others should have hints on freshening your breath. I don't think chewing mint leaves or anything is acceptable :(

That's great that you've managed 6 days!!!! Keep it up and keep us updated!!


GO LIZ!!!!!!!!!

[RoyalFlush]

Liz, you've got to break free. Clearing your gastrointestinal tract is the symbol of the start of a whole new life and freedom!

Good luck!

[lemonsfromabove]

The master cleanse is not intended for weight loss. It will help but this is a way of cleaning out your organs for optimum health and restoring our bodies to a natural state which brings us closer to God. Maybe look at why you gained the weight in the first place. It seems you are in an unhealthy codependant relationship with your family, perhaps the first time away from home you experienced emotional eating. In order to keep off any weight you may lose on this cleanse you need to identify the cause of the weight gain and work towards a postive change. Only then will you beable to heal your your body mind and spirit. Rebelling against your parents as a child and focusing only on the superficial will only weigh you down. God bless :)

[NolezGirl]

It tends to quiet people down when you mention that if you add up all of the calories that are in the glasses of lemonade, it's easy to consume a reasonable amount. Also, it's not for life, it's for 10-40+ days of your life. People can water fast for that long and this provides much more nutrition. Is it any healthier to put chemically processed junk in our bodies for that period of time? I think not!

I talked to a nutritionist for a large food company and he assured me that there would be no lasting ill effects from this cleanse. Just make sure to listen to your body.

[flowerchildspirit]

Lizmarie, I know sometimes family can be difficult, but you can show them better than you can tell them. When they see the new you. We can't choose our family, but we can choose the person we will become inspite of our family. Hang in there

[NaturesLove]

Good for you, I am on day 9 and I too am reading 12 steps to raw food. Fortunately I had the support from my husband while on my cleanse. In fact it was almost like he was on it with me but without doing it. He was not eating as much, lol. There were times when he wanted to suggest going to breakfast but just the throught of it he remember I could not eat.

Sometimes you have to put your foot down and just do what you feel is best for you, once you family sees how you look and feel after your cleanse they may come around. good luck

Michelle